Life doesn’t have to be so hard.
I’m not here to tell you that it’s easy. It’s not.
I was at a seminar all weekend and it was gruelling and it was intense. It was three days of sitting in hard chairs with no personal space around you, for 13 hours each day. It was intended to be that way.
The first six hours were terrible. The following seven were excruciating. And that was just day one. I almost didn’t go back for day two.
But I did. I committed to completing this workshop, and I’d paid. So I made a choice at 9:00am on day two to sit down, shut up, and just experience it.
The only one that was suffering was me. The instructor wasn’t suffering by listening to that inner voice saying how much my back hurt. The organization that was putting it on wasn’t affected by the fact that my stomach was growling or that I didn’t get enough sleep the night before.
The only one affected by these negative and demeaning thoughts was me.
So I stayed. And with each minute that I committed to not resisting the experience, it became more and more tolerable. To the point it was actually enjoyable.
Who knew that type of situation could actually be enjoyable? Certainly not that voice in my head at 3:00pm on Friday.
Come Sunday afternoon, I was learning so much new and insightful information and realized that I had met some incredible new friends through the workshop. None of that would have been possible had I listened to that ever familiar voice in my head that was telling me how pointless this was earlier in the weekend.
Us humans are an interesting crowd. We walk through life always searching and wondering about what’s next. We live a life in sequence and in lists, just checking things off day after day waiting for the next item to put down on the list. Myself included.
We live in a constant state of resistance to what is and try and force ourselves forward into what’s next. When the truth of it all is, we are where we are because we choose to be there. No one is forcing us to stay here. In the conference. In the relationship. In the job. Whether you like it or not, it truly is a choice. The least we could do is stop and enjoy the view. At least until we are ready or willing to change it.
This weekend validated for me what I already knew but had forgotten somewhere along the way. Pushing and resisting what is, only punishes me. By holding onto these negative thoughts and beliefs, it’s not the situation or the other person that suffers, it’s us and us alone.
We won’t be able to truly move forward and expand ourselves and our views, until we stop resisting and start accepting.
That’s when life truly happens.