Getting Back Up – my own account of the butterfly effect
Hello friends, and happy September!
It’s the start of a new month, a new season, and the start of a new year for me since my birthday was the end of August. Fall is in the air, and suddenly we can feel it. I don’t know about you, but I love this time of year. I feel energized, rejuvenated. Perhaps it has something to do with the energy of the amazing solar eclipse that those of us in North America were lucky enough to witness last month.
It’s been a few months since you heard from me. In addition to the time off that comes with summer months, I’ve also been taking some time for myself to heal.
Four months ago I fell and broke my ankle while walking my beautiful pup along the river. Even all these months later is still boggles my mind how something so trivial can have such a profound impact on our lives. For eight weeks I lost nearly all of my independence. From a woman that was used to living on her own and doing almost everything for herself, I now needed to call on people to help with everything, from driving, cooking, laundry, and even bathing.
I am always a believer that with every trial life puts in front of us, there is a profound lesson to be learned and it’s up to us to open our eyes wide enough to see it. I’d be lying if I said that I got that message crystal clear and remained optimistic throughout the recovery process. Truth is there were times I was exhausted, lonely, and dare I say, even depressed.
No matter how much personal development we do, or how conscious we think we are, sometimes life happens, and we get so caught up in the thick of it all, we just don’t see clearly.
Life can be full of so many up’s and down’s and none of us are immune to it. Sometimes the blows are harder than others, and sometimes we can be left feeling so vulnerable and shaken we begin to wonder what it’s all for. But that can also be the most beautiful time of self-discovery and unveiling.
If we are patient and open up to the transformation, eventually we are left to let the beautiful butterfly emerge.
When I finally was able to check in with myself during those lucid moments, I began to take mental stock of some of those important lessons I found to help through the tough times. Here are a few of those random thoughts.
- Slow down! Don’t wait for a broken bone to force it on you. Take those extra 5 minutes in the morning for yourself, enjoy that bubble bath, say no. Even if you thrive on the busy-ness of it all, learn to appreciate not hurrying.
- Honour yourself and where you are at -even if that means laying on your back for six weeks with your leg elevated. Take the time and space you need to heal and be the best version of you.
- Every day find something to be grateful for – no matter how small. Look deep if you have to, but every day, find something.
- Keep moving – do something every day that moves you towards a goal or an accomplishment. Even if that means just getting dressed or doing your laundry. It could be the one thing that day that makes you feel good about yourself. Also literally, keep moving your body. Movement keeps the energy flowing through you which we need to restore optimal health.
- Show compassion for your whole self -not just the good parts or on the good days. Focus on those areas of your life or your body that might need a little extra TLC. Show up for them, practice a little love and forgiveness on those bad days.
- Turn to those that can be there for you with love – being met with a kind ear and some compassion can do wonders for a sad heart. When you can, be that person for someone else. Ask how you can best support someone else when they are going through a tough time. Acts of kindness and compassion will do wonders for your own soul, and your karma!
- Let go of the judgment and resentment towards yourself and be ok with what you are feeling. Yes, some people may have it worse, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t feel sad today. Sadness isn’t a finite resource. You can feel it for others and for yourself too. You have permission to feel exactly what you are feeling today and you don’t have to make yourself wrong for it.
- Trust in yourself and in something greater than you that everything is exactly as it should be and you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Learning to surrender to that can be the greatest sense of freedom there is.
I’m finally far along the road to recovery and it feels so good to be able to connect with you all again from a place of strength, love, and focus and if you are going through any challenges in your life right now, I truly hope that these ideas triggered at least one influential take away for you.
If so, please let me know in the comments. At least it will offer a little reassurance that I am back with a strong purpose.
Much love to you all and enjoy everything that this new season has to offer.