Lately I have become a little obsessed with watching Orange is the New Black. I know, I’m a little late to the party. But boy am I glad I came. The character development is fascinating and writing is phenomenal. You really start to build up a rapport with these women as if you know them.
One of the interesting aspects of the show that they reference a lot is that these women in prison are really just like us. And I agree. They are. They are just like you and me. They just made a different choice at some point that led them there. When they turned left, I turned right, and now I sit here sipping my morning coffee and writing a blog while they live out their sentence.
It has really got me thinking about the choices that we have and the impact that it can make on our life.
In recent months I have heard three different women on three different occasions tell me that they were unhappy in their marriage but that they were stuck. That they just simply couldn’t leave for one reason or another, and that they were waiting for their husband to die.
Yes, you read that right. They are waiting out their marriage like a prison sentence because they are choosing not to leave.
If you’re anything like me, you are probably in a state of shock right now reading that. Or perhaps you are nodding your head and thinking that you can relate to what these women are going through.
But I ask you, what kind of life is that?
Usually it’s money that holds them back, but it also sometimes stems around the fear of the unknown and the worry of judgment from friends and family.
Regardless of the reasons, it just makes me so sad that we sentence ourselves to a life of unhappiness because we don’t see the possibility.
Like in the show, these women made some wrong choices that left them in a prison sentence they can’t escape, longing to step outside and breathe freedom again. While on the outside, women are sentencing themselves for life, with no chance of parole. Not until someone dies.
I had to ask them though; “What if it’s you that dies first”?
My point here is that it is all about choices and everyday when you wake up and look in the mirror, recognize that the prison sentence you are living with is not enforced by anyone but you. It’s all a reality that you have chosen to create for yourself.
We are all alike and made up of the same infinite power. The only difference is the choices that we make and how we use that power.
Don’t live out your life in a prison sentence. Whether at work or in your marriage, you have a choice to free yourself from the sentence. Some women don’t. Use your power wisely.